There are people who you meet that bring out the best in you. I found myself changing small things about my character when I am around different people. I hated that about myself. So lately, I've been stopping that trend. Punting it over a bridge like Ron Burgundy did in Anchorman. I have a life outside of watching movies I swear! One main thing I've done is hangout more often with the people who allow me to act like myself around. This helps you really become accustomed to being yourself, naturally. When it comes to looking for guys I have always been EXTREMELY cautious because I sometimes do change my ways to fit in with different people. Instead of being the typical teen girl who had dated a bunch of guys, I was that girl that never had a high school relationship worthy of a Taylor Swift song. THANK THE LORD FOR THAT. I think this has also helped my parents a lot…YOU'RE WELCOME! Note the fact that I have still never had a boyfriend. Let's get this clear though people, It isn't because I haven’t had the chance. I have. It is because I have only met a few guys I feel compatible with. I will not waste time and emotions on a relationship I don't see going anywhere. Also, I don't want to rush all of that either.
That's where I find the biggest difference between most girls my age and myself. I have high standards set because I know if I don't set them I'll settle. Settling is just not an option for me, and it shouldn't be one for you either. A main thing I do when talking to guys I am interested in is see if they bring out the best in me. Ex. If I am able to be the typical happy go lucky Shelby that is somewhat too sarcastic (usually too sarcastic for people) while also being able to have the serious conversations I love having! ALSO! I am completely OBSESSED with the movie Nacho Libre, so I always need to make sure the guy loves it as much as I do. If they don't, I usually stop it right there. Worst part is I’m not even kidding. More importantly, do I like the person I am when I'm around them? That has been a HUGE eye-opener for me. So ladies and gentleman, once you find that person that allows you to act like yourself an brings out the best in you, don't let go. Those matches are hard to find. Usually, one does not take relationship advice from someone who has never had a "legit" relationship. I know. In this case though, I have witnessed many awesome relationships and some horrible ones. I mean HORRIBLE. Friends constantly come to me with problems and sometimes I feel like Dr. Phil. I kind of love it secretly. Shh, don't tell anyone. So take my advice and see what happens. Instead of looking for the hottest guy or girl look for the one who allows you to be the person you want to be. More importantly look for the one that you don't have to alter yourself for. This applies to friends as well. If you find you are hanging out with people you don’t really “connect” with in terms of you want to be, look elsewhere. You might just be looking in the wrong places. You deserve to be able to act like the person you truly are or want to be with people who encourage and support you.
XOXO,
SHELBY
That's where I find the biggest difference between most girls my age and myself. I have high standards set because I know if I don't set them I'll settle. Settling is just not an option for me, and it shouldn't be one for you either. A main thing I do when talking to guys I am interested in is see if they bring out the best in me. Ex. If I am able to be the typical happy go lucky Shelby that is somewhat too sarcastic (usually too sarcastic for people) while also being able to have the serious conversations I love having! ALSO! I am completely OBSESSED with the movie Nacho Libre, so I always need to make sure the guy loves it as much as I do. If they don't, I usually stop it right there. Worst part is I’m not even kidding. More importantly, do I like the person I am when I'm around them? That has been a HUGE eye-opener for me. So ladies and gentleman, once you find that person that allows you to act like yourself an brings out the best in you, don't let go. Those matches are hard to find. Usually, one does not take relationship advice from someone who has never had a "legit" relationship. I know. In this case though, I have witnessed many awesome relationships and some horrible ones. I mean HORRIBLE. Friends constantly come to me with problems and sometimes I feel like Dr. Phil. I kind of love it secretly. Shh, don't tell anyone. So take my advice and see what happens. Instead of looking for the hottest guy or girl look for the one who allows you to be the person you want to be. More importantly look for the one that you don't have to alter yourself for. This applies to friends as well. If you find you are hanging out with people you don’t really “connect” with in terms of you want to be, look elsewhere. You might just be looking in the wrong places. You deserve to be able to act like the person you truly are or want to be with people who encourage and support you.
XOXO,
SHELBY